Allowing Surprise: Lauren Dionysius on Bali & Intuition

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I found out about six weeks
before my rental lease expired

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that the they were going to
increase it by 20%, which, you

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know, as a solo female on my
own, everything was on me and I

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had to make a decision.
I remember very distinctly and

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just this thought, this tiny
soft thought that Clea popped in

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and said don't worry, you can
just go to Bali.

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The Lip Lounge, a podcast about
real people, real lips and what

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it took.
Hello and welcome to Leap

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Lounge.
I am here today with Lauren

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Dionysus, who's coming to us
from Malaysia.

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And it's fun because she lives
in Bali.

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She's originally from Australia,
but she's in Malaysia now, which

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there's a story behind that.
And that's part of her leap as

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well.
She's a business owner who wound

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up relocating because the rent
got too high, basically.

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And so, Lauren, welcome to the
Leaf Lounge.

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Thanks, Jane.
Thanks for having me.

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It's great to be here.
I'm I'm so happy that you're

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here.
So could you tell me where you'd

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like to start with your story
today?

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Yeah.
Well, I think let's let's dive

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into what you just mentioned
that yes, I'm currently in

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Malaysia and have been for three
weeks now.

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And yeah, it's all part of this,
this journey, this leap that I

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took to going to Bali.
My home country is Australia.

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And yeah, I found myself in a
really difficult situation where

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I had to make a decision about
whether to stay in Australia

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with the rising cost of living
or take a chance, take a risk,

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make that leap into a very new
and also daunting experience of

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living in Bali.
So it's, it kind of sums up my

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journey really of just
surrendering to what I can't

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control and not stressing myself
out of it, trying to find the

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the adventures in the unexpected
and the delight in the

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unexpected, even if it was
totally unplanned and, and yeah,

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not where I thought I would be
at this point.

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So yeah.
That sounds about right.

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And that's an amazing way of
looking at it is just, you know,

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just be one with it and just
roll with whatever is happening,

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you know, even whether it's
expected or unexpected.

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So and what happened to get you
to Bali is also kind of

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unexpected.
What led you to that path?

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Yeah.
Well as I, as we briefly

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mentioned, my rent went up 20%.
I at that point in 2024, mid

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2024 in June, I was working part
time as a, as a copywriter back

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in Australia and I also ran my
own businesses as well.

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And yeah, I found out about six
weeks before my rental lease

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expired that the, they were
going to increase it by 20%,

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which you know, as a solo female
on my own, no financial

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stability or security in the
form of a partner or family.

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You know, everything was on me
and I had to make a decision.

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Am I going to try to work even
harder just to be able to find

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this extra rent that I'm not
going to see?

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It's just going to go straight
to the landlord?

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Excuse me?
Or do I, you know, try something

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different?
Do I?

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You know, I love a simple
lifestyle.

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I love adventure, I love
exploring, I love meeting

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people.
I enjoy new experiences.

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And I'd already travelled
extensively in my 20s and 30s.

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And so I had packed up and lived
in the UK for a couple of years.

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I'd packed up and gone to Africa
to do some volunteering.

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So the concept wasn't totally
new to me, but it was new for

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that point in my life because I
was very happy in my apartment.

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I was very happy in the city
that I was living in.

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I had family there, I had
friends there.

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But interestingly, I look back
now and I had planned to go to

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Bali for a month.
I'd already booked my flights,

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I'd booked my accommodation and
it had been a while since I went

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there.
So I thought, you know what, it

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feels feels good to to go and
visit Bali again.

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But it was 3 weeks before this
trip that I found out about my

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rent.
And so I decided quite quickly

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to postpone my flights until mid
August, which is when my lease

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expired on the apartment I was
renting.

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And yeah, use that time between
mid June and mid August to

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basically plan an international
move and and pack my life into

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storage and organize the things
I needed to organize and then go

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to Bali with without any
expectations.

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And that was really hard, but
also with the knowing that if it

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didn't work out or would prove
to be not a good step for me,

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then I had choices.
I could go back to Australia, I

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could go somewhere else.
So, so that's what I did on the

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11th of August 2024.
I got on that plane to Bali.

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And apart from my little stint
in Malaysia right now, I'm still

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there and.
And what you said about being a

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single female, you know, not
necessarily having the support

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that so many other people have,
how true is that?

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I mean, I feel that as a single
female myself, you know, having

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to support myself.
And it's hard to ask other

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people to support you when
everyone else sees you as being

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independent. 100% and I've been
very independent since I was 19

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like, you know, living on my
own, like financially

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independent at that point.
So it's, I think it's sort of

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gets to a point for me where
I've become almost hyper

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independent to the point that I,
I hate asking for help and I

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have this almost stubbornness of
like, I can do this, like I want

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to do this on my own.
But I think sometimes the, the

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shadow side of that is that
everything comes back to me.

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You know, it's all on me.
There's there's a lot of

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pressure to, to make ends meet,
to earn the money, to make all

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of the decisions.
You know, even just with the

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visa situation, there's so many
decisions I've needed to make

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around that and so many changes
to plans that I've needed to

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adjust to.
And yeah.

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And just living in Bali and
where to move to and when to

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move and, you know, how to spend
my days and how to, how to live,

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how to travel.
Like there's so many decisions

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and many of these decisions are
really exciting for me.

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But it's, it's this realization
of how much it all comes back to

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me.
You know, it's all, it's all on

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my shoulders.
There's no one's going to come

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in and save me.
Nobody's going to just take

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everything off my plate.
Nobody's going to make these

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decisions for me.
And nor should they either,

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right?
Because it's my life and my

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experience and I'm, you know, it
is about what I want and don't

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want.
But yeah, it certainly, it

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certainly has its challenges
when it all comes back to you.

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And yes, of course, you know, I
can talk through things with,

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with friends.
But you know, again, especially

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friends back in Australia, they
have no idea what this lifestyle

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is like because it's so
different from the lifestyle

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that we shared two years ago.
And, and further back from that

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where, you know, we had a lot
more in common.

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But now it's like, unless you
really live the essentially the

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digital nomad life in a foreign
country, running your own

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businesses fully online, unless
you live that, it's very, very

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hard to to understand that.
And for me to find people who

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really get that when they're not
living that, you know what I

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mean?
So yeah.

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So did you ever feel like an
outcast from all of this?

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Yeah, look, it was, it was
really hard and it was something

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that I was probably in denial
about for a long time.

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And I realized probably the
first 18 months of being in

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Bali, I was trying too hard to
be honest, to maintain those

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friendships despite the the
differences.

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And I was still trying to keep
the friendships as they were

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when we all lived in the same
town.

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Well, I'm the one that left.
I'm the one that left the

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country that moved away.
So I, I think I had put a lot of

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pressure on myself to maintain
those friendships.

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But when I went back to
Australia and suddenly I have

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all of these people that I need
to catch up with, they, they

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weren't very forthcoming.
And I realised I was the glue.

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I was the one making all the
effort.

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I was the one that was kind of
overcompensating for my move.

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And when I stepped back, I saw
there was probably only two or

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three of those friends who
stepped forward and said, hey,

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do you want to catch up?
Like, I'd love to hear what's

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going on.
And so it was really, I went

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through a very deep process of
grief around my friendships, a

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sense of isolation and
alienation, but also clarity

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that I need to, I can still keep
my old friends.

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I don't need to ditch them.
But I need to put energy into

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meeting people who are living
the lifestyle I'm living so that

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I can have that not only that
connection and that

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understanding, but also the
support of people who really get

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that.
So yeah, I did feel very on the

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elder and I and A really deep
sense of solitude, not so much

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loneliness.
I'm used to my own company.

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I'm very happy in my own
company.

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But this, it was this sense of
wow, I really am alone here.

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But also like this sense of
almost like liberation of, oh, I

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don't have to keep trying so
hard to keep my friends.

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And again, coming back to trust
that, oh, I feel like I can

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trust that those who are meant
to stay in my life will stay and

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those that won't, won't.
And also those that do stay,

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allowing those friendships to
shift and change without

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expectation.
So I got through to this point

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where I just let everybody off
the book.

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Oh, I haven't spoken to them for
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I'd like to send them a message.
Oh my God, I haven't heard from

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them for so long.
Like maybe they've forgotten

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about me or, you know, I need to
keep that friendship.

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I'd so.
And reaching out from that

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space, I realized didn't feel
good.

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Whereas reaching out from more
of an intuitive space, I'd often

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get a response like, Oh my God,
I was just thinking of you and I

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was going to message you and you
beat me to it.

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And so it just felt much more
aligned to to be more aware

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around those friendships, those
connections, why I was reaching

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out.
Also allowing others to come to

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me as well, but also, as I said,
putting my energy into

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relationships and friendships on
the grounds with people who were

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living the life that I was
living.

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And that has been, but also
without expectation, you know,

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and that's been a game changer
for me.

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And that's only been in the last
two to three months that I've

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had that shift.
So that's.

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So cool, because I mean, I wish
I learned that so much sooner

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about just being able to let it
go instead of I'm trying to be

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the glue holding it all
together, you know?

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And as you move and you change,
your friends move and change

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too.
And in your case, it was a much

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bigger move and people were just
like, I don't get it, including

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family members. 100%, Yeah.
Yeah, absolutely.

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Absolutely.
Yeah, I, I totally know what you

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mean because I mean, solopreneur
here and my friends have no

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idea.
You need to be around people who

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understand that and get it
sometimes too.

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And it's hard to get away from
that hyper independence.

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So at the same time, I also love
what you said when you were

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figuring out, you know, well, do
I want to stay and pay the 20%

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but I can't afford it.
But you had this intuitive

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knowing that you were supposed
to go to Bali and you were

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supposed to relocate there.
It was, it was very strong.

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I remember thinking, oh, she's
so lucky because she has the

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that freedom.
She she's not sort of tied to a

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location or a place.
And part of me was envious of

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that, but not enough to want to
at that point pack everything up

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and and leave permanently.
Oh yes, I remember what that

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feels like to to have that sense
of freedom.

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Hey Lauren, can I pop over and
see you for a few minutes?

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I just want to talk to you about
something.

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I knew instantly something was
wrong.

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And I remember very distinctly
as I was walking my way through

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my living room to my front door
and just this thought, this tiny

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soft thought that Clea popped in
and said, don't worry, you can

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just go to Bali.
And then of course, like a

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minute later, I'm standing at my
door with the property manager.

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And he said, look, I'm really,
really sorry to, to tell you

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this.
And he had a bunch of paperwork

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in his hand.
But he said, you know, I've been

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speaking with the landlords and
he is very adamant that he wants

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to increase your rent by 20%.
Are you greedy, landlord?

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You're already getting X amount
for this property that's 15

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years old and nothing's been
done on it.

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But there's also part of me
that's like, oh, I just have

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that thought about going to
Bali.

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Like, could this be my
opportunity to, to do that?

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Because now it's like my world
has opened up.

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Even though initially it felt
like the walls were closing in

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on me, especially financially.
I was like, well, my businesses

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are run too and now are both
remote.

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I was just working locally
because that's where I was at

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the time.
But my businesses were both

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location independent.
And I also had another part time

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job at the time that was also
remote, fully remote.

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And so I thought I don't
actually need to be here on the

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Gold Coast to, to live my life.
I could really take that leap

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now and, and actually do the,
the remote working thing from

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another country.
I wonder maybe in the future I

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could, you know, have two homes
like maybe, you know, Australia

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and somewhere else.
I, I realized within 24 hours, I

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knew that I wasn't going to stay
and that I was going to go to

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Bali, something new and
exciting.

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But then there's other part of
me that's like, but I like the

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stability and the security of
having my own space and having

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that home base, you know?
Do you have that?

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Do you feel like you've got that
sort of stability on ballet now

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like you did, or is it
completely different?

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No, no.
It's been a really interesting

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journey.
It's one thing that's happened

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in Bali is it's really strips me
bare of any attachments.

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So things like family, things
like friends, things like my

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daily walks around the lake or
living near the beach or even

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having that home base.
I did have probably for the

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first, I want to say the first
two months I travelled a lot

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because it was, it was a
novelty.

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And then the following year, so
beginning of 2025, I did find

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somewhere a home base in a
little apartment in Ubud and I

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stayed there for probably it was
the best part of a year.

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But then I started to to get
itchy feet again.

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So I did some more travel and
earlier this year I went back to

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Australia to do some house
sitting.

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And then when I came back to
Bali in April this year, I

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thought, oh, I just like, I was
really craving that base.

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I was really like, I was pining
for it because I was tired of

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the changes.
I was tired of, you know,

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jumping from guesthouse to
guesthouse.

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And you know, and I was, I was
travelling quite cheaply as

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well.
So I was, I was at the lower end

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of the, the accommodation
spectrum for price and things

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like that, travelling on a
budget because that's kind of

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what you do when you have your
own business and it's, and the

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income is very unpredictable.
You know, in the busy times,

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you're like, I don't know how
long this needs to last.

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And then it's low.
And then it's like, OK, I need

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to save my pennies.
But it was this experience for

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me where I had to.
And this has been my journey

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since April is really letting go
of this attachment.

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I'm like, I really and even now
being here in Malaysia, I've

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already moved six times, not
because of my own choice, but

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because of dodgy accommodation
places, being full travel, like

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all of these things.
And I'm like, I'm craving now

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just to, I want to get back to
Bali, get back to Inboard and

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just rent my own villa again,
that I can stay indefinitely.

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But despite since April trying
to find a villa, it just has not

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worked.
And it's been really

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frustrating.
But then I found out I needed to

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leave the country because of my
visa.

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And now I can see why I didn't
find that base because I, you

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know, I'd only be there for a
couple of months and then I'd

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need to leave Indonesia.
And then I, you know, I'd

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obviously have to be paying
double expenses unless I wanted

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to give up that villa.
So it makes sense now, but but

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it's, it's like going back to
what I was saying about being

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stripped bare.
I feel like the things that I, I

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kind of have attached to that
helped me feel safe, which is a

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home base.
It's a job because that little

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part time copywriting job that I
had, I was made redundant six

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weeks after moving to Bali.
So that was another piece of

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stability that that fell away.
So what do you know about

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trusting yourself now that you
would never have known if you

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didn't take this I?
Think I've finally started to

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believe and trust that things
always work out.

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The known always becomes known
at some point.

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And this feeling of I look back
to in my life and you know, when

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I think of the times where I
haven't known what to do or

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haven't.
Haven't had a plan, or didn't

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know what the next steps were or
really confused.

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Something has always happened
and in those turning points it's

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always been completely out of
left field.

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It hasn't come from a plan.
It hasn't come from one of the

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multiple lists I have on my
phone.

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It's come to me in a very
unexpected, very random, it

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feels way.
And so I think with that pattern

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that's happened so many Times
Now and I think it happens to

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all of us if we're open to, if
we're open to that.

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And that's why my motto now is
like allowing myself to be

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surprised because when I let go
of that and just trust that the

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next steps will be there.
The the steps are being laid.

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They're not the yellow brick
path is not complete already.

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It's like we're building it as
we go, as we go.

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Then that's helped me to to
trust the process more and trust

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myself more.
That as long as I stay true to

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myself, as long as I do what I
feel called to do, whether

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that's intuitively or whether
it's just because it's something

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I like or something I want to do
or feels good, feels right.

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Allowing that to be what guides
me rather than I should be doing

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this or, you know, I've had a
lot of issues with anxiety and,

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and lack of trust in my life.
And, you know, and also booking

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to other people, you know, to
teachers and, and mentors or

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coaches to, to guide me in that.
But now realizing that I'm in

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the driver's seat of my life.
And it sounds like maybe a

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little bit cliche, but I feel
like I'm really living this now.

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Like I'm in the driver's seat.
And yes, I can have a teacher or

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a guide or a coach or a mentor
in the passenger seat with me or

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a friend, you know, whatever it
is.

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But really trusting my
intuition, trusting my inner

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knowings, trusting, trusting
what feels good and trusting

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that that is the next step or
it's going to lead me to the

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next step, rather than it coming
from a place of should or a

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place of logic, which doesn't
always line up with that, with

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that inner knowing.
I, I love your motto, allowing

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myself to be surprised.
God, I wish it did.

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I mean, I it's one of those
things where I just want to ask

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what's next?
But you don't know because it's

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all about letting go and
trusting for you right now, you

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know so.
Yeah.

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What would you recommend for
other people who want to take

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the journey to Bali?
Yeah, IIA 100% say do it.

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Bali is a very beautiful people,
a beautiful country with very

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kind people, very friendly
people.

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I've never as a a solo traveller
is female.

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I've had zero issues.
It's just a very different way

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of living.
But I'd also say take it step by

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step.
Don't be like me and try to have

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steps A-Z figured out before you
get on the plane.

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Just have steps ABC.
You know, have your flight

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booked, booked, have some
luggage, have a villa or a guest

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house or a homestay booked maybe
for the first week or two and

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trust that you will know what to
do next because Bali is like

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that.
It's, and I hear this from so

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many people I've met in Bali
from all over the world, that's

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Bali calls you.
It's somewhere there where you

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feel the pool to go to Bali.
And there's because when you

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feel that pool, it's because
there's something there waiting

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for you.
And for me, it's been meeting

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amazing people from all over the
world, being able to live a

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quality of life that I would
never have been able to afford

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in Australia.
So if you are looking for a

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simple lifestyle, because it is,
it is simple over there.

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If you're looking for a slow
lifestyle, the balines, they do

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not hurry.
My biggest piece is just allow

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yourself to be surprised and
allow yourself to take that leap

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without seeing the net, but
knowing that the net is there

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even if you can't see it yet.
And I have come across that with

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everybody that I've met in Bali
to have, for reasons similar to

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my own, have wanted that
simpler, slower lifestyle.

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And they just feel that pull
then.

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Yeah, I'm, I'm sure that you'll
have an amazing experience

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because Bali will surprise you
in ways that you can't even see.

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And it will hold you.
It will support you.

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You'll meet amazing people.
You'll have great experiences.

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You'll be immersed in the, the
culture, the simplicity, the

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slowness, the freedom.
If you're looking for freedom in

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your life, go to Bali.
I've got to a point where I have

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too much freedom.
Now I'm feeling I need a little

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more structure in my life
because freedom is my top value.

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So.
So yeah.

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But my my advice is, is just do
it and just do one step at a

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time and the steps will unfold
that I can guarantee you of

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that.
Thank you so much for sharing

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your leap with us today and your
story.

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How can our listeners reach you
for additional information or to

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know more about you or your
business?

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Yeah, well, feel free anyone who
is interested in taking taking

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the leap to Bali and especially
if you are a business owner,

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feel free to to reach out to me.
I'm on I'm on Instagram.

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I have two businesses, Born
Energy, which is about

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connecting with the the souls of
babies and children.

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I also have my own copywriting
business, Words for well-being

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and that is about creating words
for purpose LED business owners

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and strategic websites that are
simple and easy to to read.

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So you can find me on my
websites, which is born

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energy.com.auorwordsforwellbeing.com
dot AU.

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I'm also on Instagram just for
the baby business at Born under

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score Energy.
So feel free to DM me.

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My e-mail addresses are there
and they're on my website, so

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you can also shoot me an e-mail
if you wanted to as well.

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Thank you, Lauren, and all that
information will be in the show

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notes.
I appreciate you being on here

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today and wishing you the best
of luck in a swift resolution

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for your all of your visas and
everything that you need and get

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back home where you can have a
home base for a little while.

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Thank you so much, Dane.
Thank you for having me.

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It was great to be here.
If this episode provided some

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inspiration to keep moving
forward, please like, share,

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comment, and subscribe.
And be sure to keep coming back

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for more conversations about
what happens when people answer

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the call to reconsider the
age-old question.

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What's next?
Until next time, keep moving

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forward.